All women are familiar with this phrase. And it can apply to so many situations. I recently had a pretty deep conversation with a friend about this subject and it just got me thinking. In her particular situation, she never got closure. That is something that you desperately need whenever you move on from someone you once loved. Anything could have happened- He could move away, he could cheat on you, you can cheat on him, you can just get tired of each other and break up.. who knows.
But you always always need closure.
If you dont get it .. more than likely it will eventually start haunting you again. So when that happens, what do you do? You almost feel like why am i thinking and dreaming about him again? whats wrong with me? What do i do? Do you talk to him about it just to get it out there and get it off your chest?
Personally i'de rather talk to him about it. I dont care if he says "look i cant stand you please leave me alone." At least you know where yall stand! haha i mean seriously.. maybe it would put your mind at ease. Just knowing that you not being with him is best for you and yall werent ment to be together anyways sounds like it would feel so much better than torturing yourself night and day with dreams of something that once was. You cant move on to your future until you face your past.
But why is that soo scary? I know i would be terrified to go back to a significant ex and just lay it all out there.. for him to more than likely just do the A town stomp on my feelings. Maybe thats just what you have to do. You have to be willing to let yourself get hurt so you can move past it.
So, strap on your big girl shoes and GET closure. Because if you dont.. those memories will sneak up on you and slap you right in the freakin face. And.. it hurts.
Trust me ... i know from experience.
Much love :)
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